“How can I achieve my goals?”
This is the question I often receive from clients or those who read my blog.
I am nowhere closer to the position to say that I have achieved all of the things I painted in my life, but the more I try to achieve and fail, the clearer it gets for me to see the formula for success.
There are so many things that had to be reprogrammed within me in the process of achieving goals and dreams and here I want to particularly focus on developing a good relationship with yourself and dream.
I have to admit though that I am guilty of not having such a good relationship and I relearned myself to flex new muscles to catch up on what has been missing.
Anyway, although I trained my ability to make a good relationship between myself and my future self including my goals, I used to believe in my story so strongly that I am convinced that I don’t have a dream by default.
What I didn’t realise is that I have been programmed to give up on dreaming a dream as soon as it comes up in front of my eyes. I identified it as a dream I might want to achieve in the future, then shut it down by default because of my subconscious tells me to recognise it as an enemy of my zone of acceptance.
Having the ability to allow me to pursue my dreams and goals to achieve is one of the greatest gifts I unwrapped in my life, but that does not guarantee my old self is eradicated, rather, it still exists within me, so it comes up to my door and knocks on it from time to time to remind me of their existence too.
I used to react and got carried away to follow the instruction given by this voice telling me to ignore goals and dreams welling forth from within, but now I face it and listen to what they say, acknowledge it and appreciate it and say bye to them instead of getting triggered.
Don’t get me wrong I still sometimes get triggered to react to that voice and feel misaligned, but less frequent and much shorter to wake up.
Anyway, here I want to share my point of view on how to manifest your dream based on my experiences that help me get where I am now.
Going back to the question at the start, I have to admit that this is a difficult question to answer because everyone has different skills and abilities.
In my case, I am good at aligning business models to the vision people want to manifest, identifying which part of their business is misaligned. Also, I have tons of experience in online marketing that I have been doing for more than 10 years, presentations that I prepare every month to present my progress and process to people in my circle, and consulting individuals who need a voice outside to pattern interrupt to change their awareness.
Therefore, I intentionally design my business, whatever the type of business I create, to be aligned with these skills that I embody which are my strength, to maximise the result for them as well as myself to be aligned.
What makes it difficult for me to answer the question above is that other people have different strengths, weaknesses, or experiences, and normally I don’t know their details when the question was asked, so giving a genuine and practical answer is often impossible without understanding the context of the person and backstory of what they want to be, how they want to achieve how fast you want to reach where you want to go as such.
However, one piece of advice I can always offer is to “picture your dreams and goals with emotion and create your process with reason.” Here are two reasons why:
- The Reason to Picture Your Dreams and Goals with Emotion: To put power into your picture, I believe that you need to feed it with passion. The power that comes from desires like “I want to try it,” “I want to become capable,” “I want to challenge myself,” “I want to improve,” and “I want to be someone” has incredible strength that can be transferred as strong energy for action. I think that emotion functions as a necessary component at the foundation of any movement when taking off from scratch requires an enormous amount of action that creates huge energy. Emotion creates a future to be built and a future creates a framework to be played out for action necessary to manifest it.
- The Reason to Create Your Process with Reason: To make your dreams and goals a reality, you need to lay out a plan based on practical execution, and this does not require any emotion. You need to come up with the most efficient and effective way to achieve your goals. Even if someone else says, “It’s impossible,” when you share your dream with people if you can logically refute their argument, then you will know what steps you need to take to achieve your goals. If you don’t reach this level of understanding in depth in regard to your plan, then you probably will not be clear about what action to take, and it will be a challenging journey. By the way, if you’re too afraid of what those around you think, then you’re not committed to your dreams. If you’re too afraid of what fools or trolls on the internet think, then you’re not committed to your dreams.
Therefore, I recommend you picture your dreams and goals with emotion and create your process with reason. You can say, “I’m going to do it because I want to!” and start moving forward.
Once you have created your plan, seek out feedback that might challenge your process and see if you can get a comment from people around you who says, “I believe you’ll be able to achieve your dream because your plan is so logical, and you are so passionate.”
That is the reaction we want to see when you present your plan out to people around you.